“Will you marry me?”
Okay, so maybe that’s a little extreme. But only maybe. I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but the last few months have proven to be very successful for budding wedding ceremonies – From engagements to just the plain old two people getting together on a serious level. I don’t know if it’s the water at the moment, but the couple bug seems to be going around. Be aware!
Now, I don’t want to be rude, insensitive, or otherwise, and I certainly don’t intend to offend anyone but, I am just going to remind you that this is my blog. Now, in saying that, there is little worse than feeling slightly alone, and living with 2 people that are in new relationships.
You know, the honeymoon stage. Granted, one couple is more affectionate than the other, albeit, a lot more, it still makes a difference being there all the time. I don’t think that they make it worse, maybe just aware.
It was Valentine’s day on Sunday but, it doesn’t bother me. What bothers me is that I don’t think I have met one person over the last 19 months or so, that I can actually be with. That “can” has many connotations with it – They may include age, current status, location, etc.
But the fact of the matter is that I want sparks. And bubbles. And all those other things that everyone craves so badly.
I know you can not force these, but it doesn’t mean I can’t want them. Yes, I’ve been on the odd date, even though not for a while, and yes, I know I’m a good person, and all those things… it’s still a desire i have.
I will keep trying to go out and meet new people. This is one of my tasks for the year. Once I can do that, maybe I’ll be able to meet some people I like. Work, as well, has been sapping a lot of my energy but, I don’t mind that too much. It’s something that I think is worth it. For me.
Anyway, that was just something I needed to get off my chest. I am not unhappy, just unsettled. Fidgety. We’ll just see how this year will unfold.
I hate that unsettled feeling. I hope it happens for you soon
I think I know exactly what you mean with this post and I’m thankful I don’t have to be surrounded by new and budding relationships as much as you are exposed to.
Submerging myself in work, studies and other projects have allowed myself to insulate me from this, but this should be read as a warning: hide and you’ll stay hidden.
So kudo’s to you for making the effort to go forth and meet…
Ah. Well. Go out & have fun.
Gee, thanks.
Unsettled. Nervous. Sometimes unsure.
These three things are usually the start of something great.
Mwah
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Oddly enough, both my partner and I reckon neither of us have met anyone ELSE in the years we’ve been together we’ve noticed a spark with. I’m sure that is in part due to us being ‘closed off’ to those opportunities because we’re in a relationship, but I don’t think it’s all that strange what you’re describing. Nothing wrong with having ‘high standards’ and wanting the best out of a relationship!
The sparks and butterflies and anticipation is one of the best parts about meeting someone new, and you shouldn’t settle for anything less.
All jokes aside dude, have you thought about speed dating or online matchmaking? I know people think online matchmaking is lame, but I can quite easily tell you that I know 3 or 4 married couples all of which met via online dating sites. The speed dating thing is fun too!
On that note, I know a woman who does matchmaking, she’s damn good at what she does and it’s very discrete and very corporate related – no dodgy stuff that the poor industry has been labeled with.
Why spend weeks and weeks hopping from club to club meeting people who aren’t correct, when you could have someone get all that rubbish out of the way for you?
I duno, I’m engaged, so it’s easy for me to comment about this, but if I were single and unable to meet someone amazing, I would honestly give it a go – what’s to lose anyway? You’ll definitely save time!
That’s a great suggestion Chris.
I was thinking about experimenting with the ole online dating and speed dating. it seems like a lot of fun…something worth exploring ..even if its just for the stories.
Ye mate, people stereotype these things with a negative light, but it’s ANYTHING but that. I know tons of people who meet people online and go on dates, a system carefully compares profiles and suggests matches – computers are clever, let them do the work. Alternatively, if you aren’t happy about that, use a human matchmaker.
Speed dating = hell, what a load of fun!
I have a friend, Bonita, she runs a site about matchmaking – She’s just opened up from Gauteng to Cape Town as well and she’s incredibly professional – http://www.matchvip.co.za is her website in case anyone wants to have a peak.
And ye blade, give it a go, you will love it!
Cath is going to be angry at me… But I don’t like this post. No, I think it’s okay as is, but it’s very much incomplete. I’m not going to change it, because it’s not serious… but anyway. Rambling…
@Sally – Thank you 🙂 We can only hope…
@Yme – Submergence is fine, as long as you remember where the surface is!
@Riven16 – I am going out and having fun. Isn’t that what it’s all about?
@cath – Thank you 🙂 For everything 🙂
@CathrynR – I think you’re right. I have closed myself off to everything lately because it was something I felt I needed to. Maybe I need to figure out how to get out of it… And I totally agree about the “high standards”. Why should we want otherwise…
@sleepyjane – I agree completely… I think that part of why I want it again 😛
@Chris @solidgame – I think I was just putting forward my feelings. I don’t think it’s at the point where I don’t think I’ll be able to meet anyone. I think if you go the right routes, online matchmatching and dating is perfectly okay. I really don’t think I could do speed dating, even though I think it’s ideas are pretty good… Make sense?
child, it’s all about timing–that’s my Mexican 2 cents. No matter what anyone says. ;0)
Ye dude, sorry, certainly didn’t mean to imply that you couldn’t meet someone, I just think you’d meet someone nicer with the matchmaking scenario 🙂
Speed dating ftw, take a mate, have some drinks, go park off and meet some peeps in a really great “game”..
I’ve also noticed the increase in couples!
Everything in time and on time!
we’re all good…cos i know you mean the other housemate when you say things like “one couple is more affectionate than the other, albeit, a lot more”
haha =) **
i always enjoy reading your blog * something to read while drinking coffee at my desk.
Being single, I actually rather enjoy going out from club to club. The whole idea of it is that I’m going out for me, not to look for someone specifically. I like the odd catch of the odd interested eye. Being so stoic a person, I’m not sure I like the structure of speed-dating and match-making – going out, even if its just to have a coffee-and-read at a cafe on my own, is my release.
I’ve had friends who have tried to get me to to do the speed dating/online thing before and somehow it just doesnt feel natural to me. Maybe I am generalising but that sort of thing reeks of desperation. Call me old fashioned but I would rather be introduced to someone, have a laugh on a night out and or meet someone through a friend of a friend. That way the fact that they know your friends speaks of their character as in not psycho. Plus I had a guy friend who would just do the whole speed dating thing to pick up chicks – complete player. Its like picking up a chick at a wedding – you’re friends gotten married you’re not but just wait maybe this guys the one – no wait he’s more than likely just looking to score. I hope I dont sound too cynical its just what I think. 🙂
@Nandoism – timing is exactly what it is… it makes it sounds like that one instant is so unlikely, though.
@Chris – I certainly didn’t get the wrong idea from it all… so dont worry. I just don’t know if the speed dating thing would work for me. I said to SolidGame, it’s not within my personality abilities.
@Angel – Sickening hey 😛
@Al_ice – I know, i know..
@jemimes – Suuuurrrrrrre
@PrincessKru – I enjoy the going out and clubbing thing too, but only for the social vibe. I try going out and not think about it, but sometimes it just gets inside my head. I like your “alone time” thing… Very important and good for you.
@Holly – I agree completely with you. I really feel that the best way would be an introduction/friend of friend/etc… But now i wait 🙂